With Mother's day coming up this weekend, I thought it would be a good time to share this little story.
When I first found out I was pregnant, people quickly started pointing out the negative aspects of children and pregnancy. Feeling a bit discouraged, I confided in my friend, Debra, that I wished people could think of the positive(the joy, and happiness, and unmatched excitement that we felt) , not just the negative (you're going to be nauseous, tired, broke).
Debra sent over this blog post that she had seen and it described my feelings perfectly. It's heartwarming and honest, and...it's probably the hormones, but it brings me to tears every time I read it. (though it probably is the hormones, because I just cried over a greeting card at Target).
Though...I added my own pictures instead of the author's photos. Because mother's day is this weekend. And my mom is amazing. So amazing that after complaining that I didn't have pants to wear to work, she went out last night, shopping all night, until she found maternity dress pants for me, then dropped them off for me to try on, and return the ones that didn't fit. My mom...she's pretty incredible.
“You guys do good work!” I comment. The parents beam with pride, but
the weariness in their eyes lets me know that they are all still in the
process of getting to know each other. The lady behind the couple
glances at the stroller as well, and asks. “Is this your first?” They
nod proudly. ”Just wait…” she snorts, and then follows with a comment
about unruly teenagers.
Of course, now that my kids are teenagers, I know the truth.
Parenting is complicated; it’s wonderful and challenging. Exhausting and
gut wrenching. Heart warming and heart breaking.
And, at the outset, parenting can be utterly daunting. It just
doesn’t help when others douse young parents with stories leading to
doubt and despair.
Instead, we seasoned moms could infuse joy into our “just waits…” As I
regard this weary pair, I think of so many things I could say…
Just wait until your preschool son sees you in the hallway at
pick up time and covertly grins and waves to you. (It’s the best
flirting in the world.)
Just wait until you watch your kindergartener jump off the bus
after that first day, triumphant and tired, melting into your arms.
Just wait until your son is up to bat, and strikes out, holding
it together despite disappointment. And just wait until the crack of the
bat meeting the ball surprises him and he races to first base…safe.
Just wait until your daughter stands up for a classmate who is struggling, and her peers, humbled, apologize.
Just wait until your child, painfully tethered to tubes and
machines in the hospital, whispers, “I just want my mommy.” (and you are
suddenly aware that your presence is more powerful than any
Just wait until your son gets his very first summer job and he
is, unmistakably, walking taller and more confidently as a result.
Just wait until your child’s quick sense of humor makes you double over with laughter.
Just wait until you hear your son invite a friend to church.
Just wait until your daughter receives her first college acceptance and you find yourself overcome with tears…not because she’s leaving, but because she’s ready.
The baby in the stroller whimpers, breaking my reverie.
I smile at the couple and look them straight in the eye.
“You have so much joy ahead of you…” I remark…
Wishing you joy today~