As you know, my sister just had twins. Beautiful, sweet, perfect little nugget babies.
|Hannah and Charlotte|
My sister's maternity leave was also not quite what she expected as one of the babies had some heath issues when she was born. After a very long 6 weeks in the hospital, she returned home to join her twin sister. She is doing well now, but my sister's return to work was even more difficult because she did not have 12 uninterrupted weeks at home to get to know her babies.
But, today they are happy and healthy. And my sister is way more sane now that she's back at work.
I love my sister, but it was time for her to go back to work.
Here are her thoughts on the transition:
Let me start off by saying I admire stay at home moms.
Our mom stayed at home until my sister was in kindergarten and she is an amazing mom.
Let me also add that I have ALWAYS wanted to be a mom. Most kids have an imaginary friend when they are little; I had a whole kindergarten class. (side note from Kara...this is true. It was nuts, she had a whole freaking class. Everywhere we went, we had to accommodate her imaginary Kindergarten class. Don't shut the minivan door too soon or Bobby, Joey and Anne might get stuck in the door)
I was the teacher and they were my students.
The summer after my freshman of college my friends sent me a mother’s day card and a gift. Like any good mom I still have gift sitting in my basement. However, I could not stay home with my girls. During my maternity leave my husband would get frantic text messages from me informing him that he was NOT allowed to go to Target, the grocery store, the gas station or anywhere else on him way home. He was to come directly home, do no pass go, do not collect $200.
I have twins so I had tons of help but there were days when it was just the three of us. Like Kara I am a better mom because I go to work each day. I enjoy each precious moment with my girls (well, except when a certain one of my daughters is up for the third time since I put her to bed at and I just want her to sleep...so I can sleep).
Given all that my first few days and weeks back at work have been tough. I miss my girls like crazy and have filled my desk at work with pictures of my beautiful babies. For those of you going back to work I say you can do it, I have faith in you.
My sister says it doesn't get better it just gets easier. For those of you staying home, well, frankly, I pass along the same message.
The thing that’s gotten me through the tough days are that I know I am not the only one feeling this way. I am not the only one who should be focusing on her job but is instead worried that her child may not be eating/sleeping/pooping today.
And then I try and remember those days during maternity leave when my husband would walk in the door and I would hand him a baby and say please hold her to I go pee. At work I can use the restroom anytime I want.
And in the end, I think that's the reason I decided to go back to work. I went back for the unlimited bathroom pass.